Beware of Gurus on
Pedestals
By Beth Ann
Erickson
If you
haven’t read this week’s Notes from
Minnesota you may want to do so now because today I’m talking
about gurus. Gurus we put on pedestals, to be exact.
These past two weeks I’ve engaged in
mental gymnastics trying to figure out what kept me from
leaping to my feet as our former dog trainer nearly hung and
strangled my little Lucy (the Rat Terrier Wonder
Dog).
The only thing I can think of is that
despite my utter horror at watching such an incredible
spectacle, in the deepest recesses of my heart, I truly
believed that this dog trainer would never do anything to
harm Lucy. I’d just spent the last two years training under
this woman’s tutelage and despite the overwhelming evidence
to the contrary… evidence unfolding one foot from my face… I
still didn’t (or couldn’t) manage any reaction beyond a
gape-faced expression on my
face.
Ah, but what
does this situation have to do with the craft of
writing?
As it turns out,
lots.
You see, gurus come in every shape and
size. It’s hard to pin point exactly what makes someone a
“guru” but you definitely know one when you see
one.
Gurus tend to create what appear to be
fonts of information. They definitely generate a sense of
awe in their followers.
Generally speaking, a guru is someone who
is living the life you’d like to create and offers a way to
help you gain that lifestyle.
When our gurus speak, we listen. We listen
big. They say “do this” and we’re all over it. They tell us
to jump and we scramble to
oblige.
At least many of us do. And that’s what
they hope we’ll do….
You’d think that as a writer, you’d be
somewhat immune to the beguiling effects of
gurus.
But you’d be
wrong.
I know of more than one so-called writing
guru who drastically inflates their income to impress their
followers. I know of another guru who carries so much debt
that he/she is barely able to make their payments. I know of
another successful guru who pays his/her writers in a very
untimely fashion because they don’t have the funds in hand
to pay their freelancers.
I mention this not to pull back some
super-secret cloak, but to help you realize that all is not
always as it seems when it comes to some of the people who
have established themselves as
“gurus.”.
When you find yourself “guru-izing” a
fellow writer, it’s time to step back and realize they’re
not much different than you. They may not have any
super-secret formulas for success. They may not have access
to knowledge that you can’t find on your own. And in all
likelihood, they may stretch the truth to make a
sale.
As we look up to our gurus, we need to
realize that they may not always be as infallible as we
hoped they would be.
Which brings me back to little
Lucy.
Although I thought I’d become immune to
the seducing allure of “guru-ism” I’d (without realizing it)
succeeded in making the owner of Lucy’s school a guru.
After all, what would we do without a
professional to interpret Lucy’s myriad of bewildering
behavior?
What would we do without someone who keeps
an eye on the latest and best nutritionals available to
dogs?
How could we possibly be responsible dog
owners if we didn’t do everything we could to help Lucy
create a rich and full life?
My point?
Gurus do not corner the market on
knowledge. As a writer, you know how to research. You can
easily find any bit of information you’re looking
for.
And when it comes to your current gurus,
just take what they have to say with a grain of salt. One
moment you can be living your little life and the next you
can receive news that your guru isn’t all you believed them
to be. And when that happens, don’t be so entangled with any
one guru that you find this bit of news detrimental to your
career.
The last sentence our former-dog trainer
said to me was this: “To the untrained eye, what you saw
that day probably looked a little violent.
But….”
I didn’t listen to the rest of the
sentence. This guru had thoroughly fallen off her pedestal,
lost an ardent follower, and nothing she could say will
erase the image of my little dog body slamming into that
bright red dog tunnel.
Perhaps it’s time we dismantle a few
pedestals. Then we’d be freed up enough to see our gurus for
what they truly are: fellow sojourners who have traveled a
little farther down the path than we have. People, just like
the rest of us, who struggle, laugh, live, make mistakes,
and can suffer gross
misjudgments.
With so many writers currently striving to
become gurus, wouldn’t it be refreshing if all of us slowed
down enough to actually enjoy doing what we love? Perhaps
write for writing’s sake, without a dollar sign in
sight….
And in the future, when I begin to
idealize someone I probably shouldn’t, all I need to do is
take a long look into Lucy’s now-sad brown eyes. Watching
the fire almost extinguished from their depths will remind
me to use my head as well as my heart when evaluating any
guru’s advice.
~~~~~
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